John Aiken is a relationship and dating expert featured on Nine’s hit show Married At First Sight. He is a best-selling author, regularly appears on radio and in magazines, and runs exclusive couples’ retreats.
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By accident, I recently found out that my partner is a sex addict and has been acting out behind my back and lying to me. He lied by omission, not by direct falsehoods. Nonetheless, I caught him out by getting concrete proof of his compulsion to have risky unsafe sex with anonymous strangers. We are working through that, and while very distressing at the time, it’s not the end of the world as we have been able to see this as an opportunity and not something full of shame that needs to be hidden.
As part of an initial disclosure process, he gave me full and…